“But you can do so much better!” exclaimed my friend, the very first time she met my boyfriend. “Look at you, you’re gorgeous.” I was a little taken aback to be honest. I mean, thank you, you said I was gorgeous. But I wasn’t sure if I should have just accepted the compliment and moved forward, or asked her what she meant by that. I went with the latter.
“What does that mean?” I asked, with, what I can only imagine as, very genuine confusion on my face.
“You know what I mean. You’re a pretty girl - and he’s not very, um, good looking. I’m sure you must have seen something in him though” she replied.
I wasn’t as offended as I was amused to be honest. So I just smirked my usual smirk and carried on with my day.
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After that, as time passed and my boyfriend and I spent more and more time together and were seen with each other all the time - I often got to hear this. In fact, I never quite understood how people who didn’t even know me that well, could be quite as blunt as blurting out a “You’re so much better looking than him.” I mean they said it behind my back all the time, this I knew - but to say it to my face? Did they think they were secretly (and I mean very secretly) complimenting me?!
I’ve been told all my life that I’m a pretty girl - and, of course, just like everyone loves receiving compliments, I do too. But it’s not something I give a lot of thought to. I mean, why should I? It’s definitely not what defines me. I had no control over the face that I was given for god’s sake. But anyway, when has that ever mattered. Because as far as everyone else is concerned, my “standard” would and should be very high. Ugh, that word. Nothing has annoyed me more in my life.
But just to humour all these people and their thoughts and expectations - my standard is very high. That is why I am with the guy I am with. And to be honest, I have never found anyone in my life more attractive than the man I am with today.
I am in a relationship with a guy I respect and actually look up to. A lot of people may think I am “better looking” than him, but truth be told, he makes me a better human being in every which way. He is the most confident person I know - so comfortable in his skin. And that rubs off on me just a little bit everyday too. He is kind to people who can do nothing for him, and goes out of his way to do things for those he cares about. He and I share the same values and principles in life - and I know that he will always be loyal and true to me. With him, I can sleep peacefully at night and wake up feeling good about my life. If that is not good enough, then I don’t know what is.
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Looks fade away - good manners and a loving heart seldom do. Every day of my life, I wake up and I choose to be with somebody that I love - not for the way he looks (even though if you ask me, I think he looks great!) - but for the way he makes me feel! We’ve been together almost three years, and I still get butterflies every time I’m about to see him. He still does the stuff he used to do when he was trying to “woo” me! The people who know us, and I mean actually know us, individually and as a couple, think we couldn’t do better than each other. And we agree.
Published on Aug 05, 2016