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How To Tell Your Fiance You Want To Wait Before Having Kids

Smriti Notani

Guest Contributor

As easy as any conversation with your fiancé seems, this one needs a little bit of tact. We get that. We’ve come up with a list of things that will help you convey this sensitive but important bit of information to your husband to be.

1. Doing the right thing


Firstly, you need to know that you are on the right track when it comes to wanting to have this conversation. It is important to get to know your partner’s views on parenting before you tie the knot.

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2. It’s your prerogative


There’s really nothing wrong with wanting to broach the subject and you should be totally confident while doing so. You are entitled to talk about this as it is your body and your prerogative.

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3. Ask the right questions


You need to ask your fiancé if he’s ever thought about having children. You will be surprised at how many guys haven’t even thought about fatherhood.

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4. Be firm but gentle


In the scenario that he says he doesn’t want to think so far ahead, explain to him that this is a decision you both need to make. It is not something that can be brushed under the carpet and you both should have control over your own life decisions.

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5. Appreciate his excitement


In the scenario that he’s enthusiastic to be a father – take a moment to tell him that makes you happy. But you just want to walk down that road a little later.

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6. Explain what you have in mind


Tell your fiancé what your plans are. Tell him you want to travel with him and want to live life in a carefree way before you enter the parenthood phase of life.

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7. Explain your ambitions


Have you ever sat him down and explained where you see yourselves a few years down the line? If he’s the right guy for you, he will be super supportive. Explain your ambitions – really nothing wrong with that.

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8. Don’t get angry or defensive


We know that it could possibly be a little challenging if he’s not on the same page as you about this particular thing. But here’s where the real compatibility angle comes in, right? You both will reach a decision through compromise. And that’ll pretty much be the first of many. Good luck!

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Published on Jul 13, 2016
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