Did the words “new sister, new best friend” appear in your thought bubble when you first met your husband’s sister or his brother’s wife? Or did you feel that you both are such different people that if it weren't for your husband, you probably wouldn't be friends? Either way, here’s how you can get to know her better for a smooth lifelong relationship. Assuming that’s what you want… ;-)
1. Make her feel comfortable
Rule number one: she mustn’t think of you as an intruder in her family. Start by being open and let her not feel like she is a guest in her own brother’s or husband’s house. She’ll be nice to you in return - promise!
2. Be friendly, but not TOO chummy
While it is good to be pally, don’t be overly sociable, no matter how close you feel. Define boundaries in your head and maintain them without getting carried away. It will help you keep a balanced relationship.
3. Initiate family outings
Invite her and the family out to go out for dinner or lunch occasionally. Make sure you go out for the kind of food she’s fond of. Meals are best for bonding.
Start a WhatsApp family group or stalk her on social media… ;-) You’ll get to know her likes and dislikes faster.
5. Encourage her
To follow her passion and dreams. Make an effort to talk about how she spends her free time. Praise her. This will help strengthen the bond you two share.
6. Buck her up
Especially when she is down. Find out if she is a chocolate person or an ice cream one and keep showering her with it – especially when she is PMSing.
7. Draft some girl-bonding time
Like heading together for a facial or pedicure, watching a movie, doing yoga or even just going out for coffee or a shopping trip. Carve out some time to be alone together. That’s how you can get quality time for meaningful conversations.
When she talks to you about something personal, don’t pass judgement. Hear her out and give advice only when asked.
9. Be her friend - not an overprotective sister
Especially if she is younger than you. Don’t boss around or question her. Let her be comfortable around you and she’ll open up.