A father in law is usually a quiet presence in any bride’s life. Since they are the strong silent types usually, we tend to overlook them amidst all the wedding planning madness. But, you are a new person in your FIL’s life too. Here are the things he would say to you if he had the chance…
1. Welcome to our family!
This is an emotional moment for us. Our son is grown up enough now that he is getting married and we are all getting choked up. And we get a daughter-in-law… a moment we’ve been waiting for all our lives!
2. Let us get to know each other
I know we haven’t had too much time with each other but I hope that will change. I’d love it if some days you’d come and sit with us when we are having evening tea and just chat with us.
3. We have some traditions in our family
...But they are not more important than you. While I’d like you to honour our rituals and traditions, I’m more looking forward to creating a strong bond and new traditions with you.
4. I will hear you out when you have problems
Just as I do for my son, you can always come to me when you are in a dilemma.
5. Honour us as family first
I hope you’ll come to regard us with as much love and affection as you do your own parents.
6. You are like a daughter to us
Yes, I know most in-laws say that. But we think of you as a part of the family now - so happiness and disagreements both are parts of our life, equally.
7. Give us time to get to know you
We want to get to know the real you, not the idealised bahu figure which everyone expects. This will take time for all of us, but it’s a great journey we are taking as a family.
8. Think of this as your own home
I hope that you will forget the division between maika and sasuraal one day.