9 Questions Girls Have About “First Time” Sex... Answered!
Arya KhannaGuest Contributor
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Have you decided you are ready to get down to business? Are you sure that you are ready to do this or are you trying to convince yourself that you are, in fact, ready? If you are unsure about it, take all the time you need, don’t give into peer pressure. And if you are sceptical about a few things, don’t worry, we have the answers to all your doubts.
Doubt #1 - Is it normal to bleed after sex?
Absolutely. In fact the majority of women bleed after their first time in bed. However, do not be alarmed if you don’t. Contrary to popular belief that the “hymen breaks”, it really doesn’t, it just stretches. And this can happen because of sports, or horse riding or any physical activity. So, if your hymen has been stretched before you have sex for the first time, you may not bleed at all. Both are normal and it is nothing to be worried about!
Doubt #2 - How long should it last?
This one is totally up to you. If it is extremely painful and brings tears to your eyes, this is a sign that you might want to stop and take a breather. Just because your man wants to continue doesn’t mean you have to oblige and take all the pain. Stop when you have to. Enough means enough. But, if you start to enjoy it, there really isn’t a time limit.
Doubt #3 - Does it hurt?
We won’t sugar coat it for you. It is a little painful initially. But with use of lubrication and sufficient foreplay, the pain can be significantly reduced.
Doubt #4 - Should we use protection?
Of course! Please DO use protection. Even if he is confident about pulling out on time - use protection anyway. And make sure he gets tested for STDs before too.
Doubt #5 - Can I do it when I’m menstruating?
Although this is considered to be a “safe-period” (you are most unlikely to get pregnant at this time), some doctors advise women to not engage in sexual intercourse when menstruating. Your body is already going through a lot and the first two days of your period might not be ideal for your first experience with sex.
Doubt #6 - Can I get pregnant even during the first time?
Yes, you can. And even pre-cum could make you pregnant. Be very careful!
Doubt #7 - How long does it normally take for a woman to orgasm?
Ahh, tricky question. You should consider yourself lucky if you even orgasm the first time. Don’t believe the movies, they make sex look as easy as pie but the truth is - it takes time and practice to get good at it.
Doubt #8 - Does size matter?
Again, this depends on you. Not everyone has the same preferences. But we will just put the truth out there - for a first timer, a guy with a big member could be painful.
Doubt #9 - Which is the best position?
For someone who is having sex for the first time, we definitely recommend the missionary position (guy on top of girl). This is known to be the most intimate position and also the easiest to settle into. Leave the experimentation for later.