Man is a social animal. Man is also a very selfish animal. We’ve been conditioned to be rather sharing in nature, but deep down we really have a hard time parting with that last brownie which we had clearly saved for ourselves! On a serious note, even in a relationship, it isn’t ever said out loud, but unconsciously it becomes an interchangeable give and take dynamic - but that being said, you have every right to be selfish about some things without having to justify your stance. Read on to find out when it’s completely okay to be selfish in a relationship.
1. When you make time for yourself
More than guilt or being labelled selfish, this should be on your priority list. “You” should be on the the top of that list. In the hustle and bustle of everyday life and the juggling of a relationship with it, you forget to make time for yourself. Make sure that you have some alone time and cherish who you are.
2. When you decide what to do with your money
After all, you worked hard for it. Do what you want with it because you are allowed to indulge in things you’ve always wanted to. To pamper yourself is not synonymous to being selfish.
3. When you feel like you deserve more in bed
If you are putting in your 100%, it’s only fair that he does too. It’s not a demand, of course, it’s something you can genuinely be selfish about. The body has its needs and those needs need catering to.
4. When you put your life before his
Of course the key to any strong relationship is to build a life together. Yet, if his hopes and dreams differ vastly from yours, don’t be afraid to take the leap of faith on your own. Don’t put your dreams on hold just because he doesn’t feel as strongly about them as you do. If the relationship is strong nothing can hinder it.
5. When you just don’t feel like doing ‘life’
We all have those days. Men, women, all of us. These days come without warning and come crashing down on us. Days like this make us sulk, make us want to do nothing. So, do nothing. It’s okay. Don’t be sorry about what you are feeling. It’s completely natural.
6. When you move to a new place...
Moving to a new place is always overwhelming and since one has to take care of everything, it can get a little taxing. This is when you seek new people. Someone who could be a helping hand or someone who would just lend an ear. Your partner isn’t around to see what exactly you are going through, what you are putting up with. But there are people around you who do. It’s okay to mingle and make new friends. It’s a big world out there, full of bright, wonderful people.
7. When you want him all to yourself
Yes, he has a life and he has commitments towards different things in life, but he’s your man. He’s your man for a reason. You want him to yourself and it’s okay to want someone without any interruption from the outside world every now and then.
8. When you put your family first
Which is always. Yes, he is a very important part of your life, but we know how much family means, and they would come second to absolutely and positively nothing.
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Published on May 27, 2016