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Dear Girlfriends, Why You Shouldn’t Settle For The “Maybe” Guy


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Dear girlfriends,

You get what you think you deserve - and you deserve better.

Stop trying to convince yourself that he is the best thing that has happened to you, for it isn’t true. And you know it. Stop trying to run away from the constant feeling that love has to mean more, feel more than this relationship you’re in. You’re probably afraid that you might end up alone. All of us are. But that doesn’t mean you stick with a man who you know is not your forever after.

Also read: Dear Girlfriends, If He Does These 11 Things – Leave Him!

But how do you know when you meet the one? Here’s the secret. You just do. The compass inside of you will push you towards him, and this same compass will persistently pull you away from all the wrong ones. Just have the courage to pull back. You’re stronger than this.

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There are too many ordinary things in life - love shouldn’t be one.

If you stay with a man you aren’t sure about, for whatever reason - how do you think the rest of your life together will turn out to be?

He is going to be the father to your children, should you choose to have them. He will be the man you share at least two meals every day with. The man you take most of your trips with. The man you come back home to and the man you lie in bed next to. You have to be rock-solid sure about him.

Partners shape each other, break each other and make each other the old people they eventually become. And if you aren’t madly, passionately, irreparably in love with each other - how long do you think it will last?

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Life is long and it shouldn’t be a drag - and with the man you’re absolutely sure about, I promise you it wouldn’t be.  

You want a great love story, don’t you? Well, you’ve got to make sure you have the ingredients right. You can’t make a great love story with a “maybe” man - you’ve got to find someone who loves you unconditionally, someone you love more than you thought you ever could.

Also read: What REALLY Shapes Your Relationship With Him?

If you are “settling” for him, you will keep asking him for more, you will keep searching in him for more - but you won’t find what you are searching for. It just doesn’t live there.

Have courage not settle. Have courage to stay single instead of staying in a relationship with a man you know is not the one. It will only give you heartache.

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BTW, all the time you’re wasting as you think of settling for a “maybe” man...that is also time you are spending in not allowing the entry of the man of your dreams into your life. Don’t keep him waiting for too long, girlfriend.

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