We women spend so much of our time thinking about “Mr Perfect”. We dream day in and day out about meeting the right guy, falling in love and living happily ever after. But what if your happily ever after is already going on? And you’re just wasting it by thinking about a guy! Whom you don’t even know yet. Here are some really good reasons you need to stop waiting for the “perfect” guy and start living in the present moment!
1. Because, to begin with, there is no such thing as perfect
“Perfect” is pretty much a social construct. Who defines what is perfect?! Ladies, trust us, go with a good guy. A guy who loves and respects you. Who understands your true worth. A guy who your heart and soul knows to be right for you. He might have flaws and he won’t be perfect - but that’s the guy who will be perfect for you. Not somebody society thinks is great on paper - and therefore perfect!
2. Because you cannot live a happy life just waiting around…
And that too for someone you don’t even know exists yet! Stop waiting around. Life has so much to offer. Go explore the world and yourself before you start searching frantically for Mr. Perfect. Even if he does exist, he will come into your life when the time is right. So, chill!
3. Because there is nothing as liberating as living in the present moment!
Look around you - you have family and friends who love you, you have a beautiful home, you have school, college or work to look forward to and tons and tons of activities you can participate in! There are so many things to learn, so many books to read, so much delicious food to taste. Start soaking in your surroundings and making the best of what you have. Even when you do find the perfect guy for you, he won’t be able to make you happy if you aren’t happy with yourself and your life first.
4. Because the time you spend by yourself is actually the time you grow the most
As a person and as a professional. When you do finally find the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with, you will see a slight shift in priorities. His world will become your world too, and you will have less time than you do have now to do and try the things that you really want to. You will feel the need to be more stable and more responsible. So, you know what? Experiment, try and fail while you still can! Don’t feel responsible for anyone but yourself. Live life on your own terms and connect to yourself like you want to with the guy of your dreams!
5. Because, how about considering that guy who loves you madly?!
Yes, so there is this guy who is truly, deeply, madly in love with you. But you think he’s far from perfect? His nose is slightly longer than you like, he doesn’t have the perfect body and he doesn’t even earn as much as you’d want your “ideal” guy to. So what?! What are you going to do with his looks or even his wealth if he isn't someone you can be yourself with? If he isn’t as loyal as you’d want your partner to be? Think about the things that really matter. If he loves you and wants to be with you and you connect with him in a way you don’t with most others, maybe start thinking about him? Who knows, he might be “the one”!
6. Because, you ought to focus on the relationships you already have…
We women get so carried away sometimes in trying to find the perfect guy that we forget about the relationships that we already have. How about building and working on your relationship with your perfect parents, your perfect siblings, your perfect friends and all the other perfect people in your life?! People who have been there for you through thick and thin, who’ve seen you at your best and your worst - and never left your side. Don’t undermine their or your own importance in your life by constantly wanting another person to fill some sort of void - which, by the way, doesn’t really exist. Trust us, it’s all in your head. You’re so happy now - don’t waste this time thinking about and wishing for another person to come into your life.
7. Because, do you really need a man to be happy?
No, no, no. You don’t need anyone to be happy. You’re a strong, independent woman who doesn’t need to depend on anyone - emotionally, physically or financially. You’re completely capable of living a happy and content life even if you don’t end up being someone’s girlfriend or wife. You are so much more than that. You have your own identity. So start believing in yourself and loving yourself for the amazing individual that you are!
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Published on Mar 04, 2016