Has your man been behaving like Mr. Cranky Pants lately? Trying to strike a work-life balance, fulfilling social obligations, or simply getting stuck in a rut can suck and make him feel stressed out on some days. What’s worse: when he is stressed, you are stressed too and your relationship suffers the most. So, whether he has had a really bad day at work, or his favourite team lost the match, it is okay to play role reversal sometimes and pamper your man like he pampers you always. But the thing is how to pamper your boyfriend in the best way possible to cheer up his mood? He does so much for you. Even if not all the time, every now and then, he goes out of his way to pamper you and makes you feel special. Whether it's the flowers, the chocolates or the candle light dinners - it is he who does most of the planning and hard work. You may love him and even show him your love, but don’t you think he deserves to be indulged a little bit too?
Here are some very simple and sweet pampering ideas for him - because he deserves it too!
If you are standing in the kitchen right now and wondering how to pamper your boyfriend then the answer is right before you! It's food! The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Surprise him at the dinner table with something he loves to eat. You know what he likes to munch the most, don’t you? It doesn’t need to be fancy! You don’t have to make an entire meal for him - just whip up something you know he’ll enjoy. Or pick up some of his favorite food the next time you’re at the grocery store. It is the effort that will make him feel special after all. Even if you are not good at cooking, he will definitely love the efforts you put in to make it special for him.
He may love the idea of luxury spas and massages as much as you do, but may never book one for himself. So, why don’t you take up here? Book a session for him at that exotic place you have already tried and tested. Or do it at home. Be his own personal masseuse and give him a head or foot massage at home. A foot massage after a long day at work is all the pampering he needs to feel relaxed. Or a head massage with some warm oil. A good ol’ backrub is another great way to de-stress your partner. Make it a special experience for him by adding some scented candles and soft music in the room.
Give him something to look forward to every day. By leaving cute little notes for him (in his laptop bag or beside his pillow), you tell him how much you care for him. This is also an adorable way to make him miss you more. And damn, aren’t these worth that smile on his face? Whether you want to write it or just text him - tell him how much he truly means to you. These can be anything- from I Miss You messages to a gentle reminder to eat his lunch. You can definitely do these over the phone too, but introducing cute love notes makes the whole thing damn cute. Don’t you think so?
How many times has he watched Sex and the City and Gossip Girls with you? Countless times, right? Even though he isn’t a huge fan. So, now that it’s his turn to get pampered, do exactly what he does for you. Watch his favourite movies with him. Don’t do this just for the sake of doing it. Show interest in his taste of movies even if it is not your choice of a good entertainment. If you agree to watch a movie of his choice but constantly crib and complaint about it then you lose the whole point of doing this activity together. Give it a chance and who knows, you may start enjoying binge watching his kind of cinema!
Nothing is more relaxing than a hot water shower after a long day at work. The idea of a hot water bath with aromatic oils and the whole equation of you joining in are enough to make him forget about a hectic day. Moreover, you never know where it might take you. If you know what we mean ;)
Give a more pleasant alternative to the jarring sound of his alarm clock- wake him up with some hot coffee and breakfast on bed. Switch off the alarm clock before it wakes him up. Nothing can be more soothing for him than the sight of you sitting by his side, smiling, holding a cup of warm coffee. By helping him start his day with a soft approach, you are setting a more relaxed tone for the rest of the day.
There are few things in life that can replace good sex but there are also other ways to establish physical intimacy when there is no time for sex. Initiate physical contact with him while doing your everyday activities. Hug him the moment he walks in the door or plant a kiss on his lips when he helps you with the dishes. Couples who have been together for long have a tendency to kiss and touch lesser than the ones who are still in their honeymoon phase. Shake things up with unprompted kisses and sweet physical gestures and gently remind him about how much you love him.
Planning a date is not always the job of the man. Start taking responsibility and for once let him have no idea how the night is going to unfold. Book a table at his favourite restaurant, get tickets to his favourite movie or concert, or plan something utterly romantic like revisiting your first date together. Let him bask in the happy memories with you. Candle light dinners and long drives, anyone?
Every guy needs an ego boost every now and then. And do not think that it is any less pampering than anything else! Telling him how good he is at something will make him feel absolutely great. Appreciating him in person is great but sometimes, just praising him in front of his friends and family is all that is needed to make him feel really good inside. And trust us, you can never do enough of this. Acknowledge the good things about him in front of his friends and family, especially when he is right there in front of you. This will make him feel valued.
Let’s be honest. When was the last time you guys spent the day indoors, practically doing nothing, just lounging around but still enjoying? Remember, you don’t have to be productive all the time. Sometimes it’s okay to change into your pyjamas, and simply Netflix and Chill. Because, why not? Locking yourself down doesn’t mean you are antisocial, it simply means you are giving yourself time as a couple to recharge and skip the problems of the world for once. Make it a priority to spend some time only with him, even if it is only for 10 minutes. Some private time alone is important to make him understand how important he is to you.
The sweet nothings that you do for him also make him feel pampered. Making his bed or passing him the remote when he is just too lazy to get up from the couch do not require too much effort but may mean a lot to him. However, don’t let these turn into a habit unless you want him to become a couch potato! We suggest little gestures that are thoughtful and make his everyday life a little easier. For example, wrapping a blanket over him when he falls asleep watching the TV.
Planning cute and simple surprises for your boyfriend can also make him feel very special. Decorate his room with balloons or with roses and candles because love needs no reason for a celebration. He is special and he doesn’t deserve a gift only on special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries. Make it a habit to surprise each other on random days too! Give him a recording of that series he’s been dying to watch, get him a book you know he’ll love to read. Just a small gesture to show how much you love and appreciate him - and, of course, to show that he’s always on your mind.
Couples who play together, stay together. When you take up hobbies together as a couple, you start enjoying the activity more. If your partner is a huge fan of a sport or a game, spend some time on learning it and surprise him the next time he is on it. You can also ask him to teach you how to play it. You don’t have to be exceptionally good at it. The idea is to share a few laughs together and your gesture will tell your husband that you are willing to do things he likes because it makes him happy. It can be anything- like skiing, playing video games, or cycling.
Everybody likes surprises. Especially when it’s least expected. If you know he is having a tough day at work, pay him a visit with his favourite flowers or a small gift. This will give the much needed energy boost to the rest of his day. If you can’t make it to his office, get the flowers and the gift delivered. You can also pick him up for lunch or a quick coffee together or may be get his favourite food delivered on his table. This small gesture is enough to brighten up an otherwise dull and boring day. He will definitely thank you when he is back from work.
Who says only women love expensive gifts? He may never tell you that he wants an Xbox One S or the new BOSE headphones but you know him enough to figure out what he has been adding to his wishlist lately. Instead of giving him the same old gifts of shirts and wallets, buy him that phone or the play station he always wanted to buy and see the joy on his face.
Help him destress and relax by planning a holiday together. You can also keep the destination a surprise if you think that will excite him more. This doesn’t mean you have to splurge on long exotic vacations. Booking a night’s stay at a nearby resort or a weekend getaway at the nearest hill station or even a staycation. It’ll be a surprise like no other!
If you have been together for quite some time now, chances are that you are already acquainted with his friends. Even if you are not particularly close to them, just small steps to hang out and connect with them will go a long way. Organise a small get-together at your place for his college pals or a happy-hours on a saturday night for his office colleagues. You can also plan a movie night or a weekend getaway, whatever works best for your budget.
He may not say this often but as much as he likes hanging out with you, he also wants to go out on man dates with his guy friends. So, the next time you want to do something special for him, plan a night out for him and his guy friends. Trust me, it’ll take him by surprise and he’ll love you for being so thoughtful, understanding and so totally cool!
He will be eternally grateful to you if on some days you jump into his shoes and finish the tasks that he is supposed to do otherwise. For example, taking the trash out or cleaning the bathroom. By helping him with one of his daily chores, you are taking some of the load off his shoulders and making him feel relaxed. We suggest, just tick one chore off his list and do not tell him. Let him notice on his own.
If there’s one thing that can make a man feel pampered the most, it is mind-blowing sex. Dress up for him in your sexiest outfit and indulge in some of his favorite things in bed! Or just try something that you’ve never tried before. We don’t need to say any more, do we? If you are not one who likes to plan sex, a midday quickie will work just fine for both of you. So now that we’ve given you twenty amazing ideas to pamper your man and make him feel special, it’s time to actually start working on them. Excited?!
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This story was updated in October 2019.