Most of us girls start worrying about or at least start thinking (a lot) about marriage in our twenties. Especially when we’ve been dating a guy for a while! “Why won’t he commit?” “Does he not actually want to marry me?” Ladies, there could be plenty of reasons that you or your partner don’t feel ready to get married just yet - and that’s okay! It doesn’t mean that you love each other any less. Marriage is a big deal, and one ought to feel completely confident about one's own life and being before making such a huge commitment to another. So here are a few great reasons it’s completely okay if you and your boyfriend aren’t getting married anytime soon!
1. You’re still trying to figure each other out… And that’s okay!
And though this may sound to many like you’re not sure about each other, that’s actually not true. What it really means is that you’re two smart individuals who are taking their time to understand each other as people before finally taking the plunge. It doesn’t mean you love each other any less than those who decide to get married ASAP!
2. Because being together yet having your own space is actually great…
And it can teach you a lot about yourself as a person before you decide to live with and spend the rest of your life with someone. Marriage will come with its share of tests and trials - and you ought to know your own strengths and weaknesses before you can face another's.
3. Because you both still need to grow as individuals
Marriage is not a piece of cake. It might sound like all fun and games - living in with the love of your life, going on holidays together, having a sleepover every single night! But that’s not all. Of course, marriage is beautiful and it has its positives, but it also comes with its fair share of responsibilities, hard work and compromise.
4. Because, yes - responsibilites!
Like it or not, once you’re married, you will have additional responsibilities. You can’t just think for yourself, you have a partner as well as another family to think about too. All your actions will reflect on and affect them. You’ve got to be mentally ready and mature enough to take on such responsibility.
5. Because it gives you more time to focus on your careers…
And save up for a better future together! Focus on your careers now, without distractions, so that you both can have a happy, comfortable and secure future. If you’re planning on raising a family together, you will need all that saving up! So perhaps it’s a good thing that you get to devote this time to single-mindedly thinking about your career and saving up for a better future.
6. Because getting married is not the only thing that proves how much you love each other!
You’re committed to him and he’s committed to you - and you love and respect each other. Isn’t that the most important thing? While marriage may be a way forward with the person you love and want to spend the rest of your life with, it isn’t the only thing that proves your love for each other! Focus on the good things now
and don’t worry if marriage isn’t in the very near future. If you love each other, it can’t be very far away!
7. Because you’re young and have plenty of time!
There is no set time period for marriage - contrary to what the society we live in might tell us. You ought to get married when you and your partner both feel completely ready. It is a big step ahead, after all. And what’s the rush? You have your whole lives in front of you!
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