9 Reasons It’s OKAY If You’re Nowhere Close To Getting Married
Smriti NotaniGuest Contributor
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No one in the world should be allowed to dictate how you should live your life. And the same rule applies for the seemingly sensitive topic of marriage. But no matter what you choose, we’ve got your back, girl. And if you have no interest whatsoever in the institution of marriage - or you are interested but actually nowhere close to getting married - we are here to tell you why that’s totally okay.
1. Marriage is not the be-all and end-all of a girl’s life!
We are in the year 2016 for God’s sakes! Even the new millennium is now a rebellious sixteen-year-old. We’ve moved way, wayyyy past the old, archaic views of the world. Women have found a liberated and secure place in society. And this could only mean one thing - there’s a lot more to our lives than just getting married.
2. It’s sometimes just a trend!
Okay, let’s just be totally honest here. The wedding industry in India has grown exponentially. We also have Bollywood to thank for this, but weddings are basically our national pastime. But that’s totally not the right reason to get married. If you want to throw a party, throw a damn party. No one needs to get married just because people are looking for a celebration.
3. You’re nurturing your inner Girl Boss!
If you’re busy studying or working and have no time for anything else – can we just say how proud we are of you? The country needs more girls like you who are busy making something of themselves rather than chasing guys. You go, girl, we support your ambitions 100%.
4. You haven’t found “the one”.
We say that’s an extremely legit reason not to get married. You should only get married when it feels right; when you know in your heart that it’s not a compromise. We don’t know what in the world has given us the idea that we should not have too many expectations. You know what, girl? Please do have expectations. And please don’t settle. Not till you’re happy anyway!
5. Domesticated goddess – NOT!
This has been ingrained in us since we were little girls – the moment we get married we go from regular girls to perfect bahus. A lot of us don’t want to get married because our perception of marriage is that of being shackled by domesticity. If that’s what your family expects of you, too bad then. We totally get why marriage is not on your mind. Choose it someday (only if you want to), when you’re in love and the guy doesn’t have these goddess-like expectations from you!
6. Just a formality
There are a lot of you out there who may have found “the one” and marriage is still not on the cards. This is totally okay. If you’ve found love and you’re happy, that’s all that matters really. Marriage is, after all, just a legality.
7. You refuse to be “on the market”
If you don’t want to be paraded around the marriage market in the form of wedding websites and arranged meetings…that’s a totally legit reason. Maybe you’re too shy, maybe you find it regressive, maybe you’ve had a bad experience with that in the past…who knows? But don’t let anyone tell you your reason isn’t “good enough”.
8. Your parents will understand
Sometimes, Indian parents (as much as they love us) tend to put their ambitions on our heads. They are coming from a good place – they don’t mean any harm. In fact, all they want is to see us happily settled. But they don’t necessarily get us and our ways of thinking. Please don’t get married because your parents are pressurizing you. Trust us, they may be difficult to handle, but they will understand in the end.
9. Our society has become more open
It’s honestly a great time to be a single person in India. Our society has definitely become more open to single people and to women in general. Even divorce is not as taboo a word as it used to be – as recent Bollywood happenings also prove. So, really, just enjoy the single life, stigma free!