So, you’re twenty-five years old (or thereabouts) and have absolutely no idea what’s going on? Guess what... Me too! But the fact that you realise that you’re in a bit of a “situation” means you’re actually taking an active step towards figuring out what it is that you want from this world and from your life. A lot of people don’t reach this “crisis” stage until later on, and while it’s never too late to have a fresh start, it sure is better having a head start in life and figuring out what you want earlier on so you can work towards it. So, the next time you feel a little down in the dumps, instead of pulling your hair out, remember these awesome life lessons and take charge of your day!
1.You’re Really NOT As Old As You Think You Are.
I think people tend to get to this “milestone” age and suddenly think they need to get out of bed knowing exactly what they’re meant to be doing and robot through life as such. Not true. Your parents may give you the whole “at your age I was doing XYZ speech” and while you can commend their efforts, remember your life is yours for the making… There’s still plenty more life left ahead of you!
2. Take Charge Of Your Life!
If you find yourself waking up and not wanting to get out of bed, then use it as a sign. Why don’t you want to get up and go? What is it that you are not looking forward to in your day? Ask yourself these questions and force yourself to re-evaluate your life.
3. Flying Solo...
Maybe your parents thought Engineering or Finance was the way to go when you were 17 or so, but you’re in your twenties now and for all purposes a fully legal adult. You should use this as an opportunity to decide if you want to do something different or go down the path less trodden.
4. Without “Suffering” There Would Be No Gratitude
It may sound like an old cliche, but it’s true. Think about it: if you didn’t have all those jobs that you didn’t want to do, then how would you eventually figure out what it is that you DO want to do? Think back on your experiences and use them to guide you. You’re allowed to make your own mistakes, remember that.
5. It’s A Coming Of Age Feeling
Sure, you may feel like you’re alone in this and your friends have it slightly more figured out, and seem to know exactly what they’re doing and where they’re going. But the very fact that this article exists means that there are others out there feeling exactly like you do. So don’t fret, it happens to everyone.
6. Figure Out Who And What Works For You
Just because you were friends with X for 12 years during school doesn’t mean you owe her your life. Seriously, if you feel you are in a situation that is holding you back or hindering you from becoming your own person, you then cut your losses. This goes for best friends, boyfriends and even social acquaintances. It seems harsh, but sometimes cleansing can be the best thing you can do to move forward.
7. Kissing Frogs Eventually Leads To Princes…
So what if you’re not in the relationship that you want to be in, or married or even have kids yet. It doesn’t matter. There’s no rulebook that says you must accomplish these things within a given time period. Do things because it feels right for you, not because you think it’s what’s next for you. (Seriously, don’t feel pressured - because if you do it for the wrong reasons, like ticking boxes, you may just wake up one day saying “what next?” And find that you don’t have an answer).
8. Find A Routine That Works For YOU.
Or you could break away from that 9 to 5 life and decide that you want to use your savings to go travelling. It’s up to you!
9. It’s A TRAP.
By this I mean you don’t have to fall into the “grown-up” routine just because it seems like what is expected of you. You can have odd jobs to pay the bills, you can travel, you can move to Europe for a year. It’s seriously up to you (so long as you can find the courage and the financial means to do it).
10. It Won’t Last Forever, Nor Will Your Twenties.
If you’re really feeling like you’re in a rut and don’t know what to do with yourself, then don’t worry. This feeling won’t last forever and neither will your twenties. So seize the day and make the most of your “youth” while you can - because at the end of it all, you are likely to look back and wonder what more you could have done than regret anything you did do.
Published on Feb 06, 2016