#MyStory: What I Learnt About Love In 2015
Love is a beautiful thing. It’s something that everybody is either looking for or trying to hold on to. Though I’ve been in a relationship for a few years now, 2015 has been quite a landmark year filled with ups and downs.
This past year, my other half and I spent months apart, learning to deal with long distance, and have also travelled together and had the best time of our lives. I always thought I knew everything there was to know about this all-encompassing 4 letter word, but this year has taught me some important truths.
It’s really not about the grand gestures, even if they do make for great Facebook posts. It’s about enjoying the silence together, watching the same TV shows, actually being able to finish each other’s sentences and knowing what the other is thinking. It’s about co-existing, but feeling happier with their presence in your life.
You can’t help who you fall in love with, so don’t let people and society come in the way of your happiness. If you laugh together and accept each other for who you are, that’s all that matters. If you want to change who he is, then don’t even bother, it’s not going to last. Love and laughter go hand in hand, If you get each other’s sense of humour and laugh a lot together, that’s all you need to keep the spark alive through the rough times, even when you’re 80. Hell, at least laughter lines will make those wrinkles worth it!
It’s totally okay to be picky. Don’t let people who tell you that your expectations are too high, and that you’re never going to find someone, get you down. You shouldn’t settle for anything less than what you deserve. When you do find someone who gives you butterflies, it feels wonderful - and not just because you can tell all those people to kiss your ass. But remember that relationships are a two-way street. Compromise is important on both sides for it to last.
Love is simple, people aren’t. All those silly complications and problems arise because of issues within ourselves. If you trust him and he makes you happy, then just love fiercely. It’s as simple as that!
As 2015 drew to a close, it ended on a high note for us, as we got engaged in the last week of December. I still can’t believe that I’m actually going to spend the rest of my life with the person I love. It really does make the wait worth it. I can’t tell you enough how important it is to be best friends with each other. You can’t really love someone who isn’t your friend first. How else are you supposed to spend infinity with them?!
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Published on Jan 4, 2016