Sex is an important part of a relationship. But as time passes and your relationship progresses, so does the sex! Here are a few different phases of sex that every couple goes through!
1. The Infatuation/ Attraction Phase
This is, of course, right in the beginning. You’ve just met someone and are insanely attracted to them - not to say that you’re not once you’re in a relationship - but the attraction is very new. So you’re more curious about the person and about being with the person. Even the thought of having sex with them excites you and makes you long for sex!
2. The Love/ Lust Struck Phase!
You’re just starting out being together in a relationship - and oh, is this time exciting or what! This person gives you butterflies, and the sex - it basically feels out of this world. You end up having sex almost every time you meet. You can’t help it - you just can’t keep your hands off each other!
3. The “We’re Exclusive” Phase
You’ve now been with this person for some months and you’re both committed to each other. You think of having sex with no one but with them. And the frequency - it may have decreased just slightly, but you’re still going strong on the sex front!
4. The Fully Committed And Comfortable Phase
Months may have turned into a year and now, you’re obviously more comfortable with each other than you have ever been. You have sex, but no one is actually going out of their way to make it happen. It happens every time you guys decide to chill at home or just cuddle in bed - because, well, of course you are very much still into each other!
5. The Growing Up (Together!) Phase
As you grow as individuals, you also grow together in your relationship. This is not to say that you don’t enjoy or like having sex with your partner, but it becomes about much more than sex. You like to spend time together - go for nice dinners, watch movies, travel together. All of that starts to seem more important and fun to do with your partner. And sex, it’s just a part of life. Happens when it happens!
6. The “Must-Do” Phase
After a point, there comes a time when you feel like you must have sex, because well, you must. It’s important to do it every once in a while if you want to sustain the relationship - or that is why you think you must do it! And also why you end up doing it every once in a while. It’s just like a box you must tick off your to-do list. Doesn’t sound like the ideal phase, but it is a phase that most (but not all) couples go through!
7. The Happy, Content-In-Love Phase
After all of this comes the best phase. After a few years of being with each other, you discover sides to each other that make you love the other person even more. You cherish each other in a way that no one else can understand. Sex, in this phase, is a pure act of love. You do it to express your love to your partner rather than because you're lusting after them. That too, but it’s mostly just love! Even though it may not be all that often, because you’ve developed a life with each other that includes a lot of other stuff - it is, in it’s truest form, lovemaking when you do it.
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Published on Jan 28, 2016