This story was updated in January 2019.
Women often rely on men to take the call when it comes to beginning a relationship or proposing for marriage. But it is 2018, and we as feminists, aren’t going to wait around for men to take the call. If I love someone, I am going to tell him how I feel and express my commitment towards him. But when I got to scout the internet for help on these topics, the searches were bleak. So, I decided to write an article which will help and encourage women to take the call when it comes to their love life. From asking someone out to proposing to him for marriage, here is a guide on how to propose to a guy. Be it a shy introvert or a sports enthusiast, you should plan a proposal around his likes and dislikes, after all, it’s his big day!
Best Ways To Propose A Guy
Ways To Propose Him For A Relationship
Ways To Propose Him For Marriage
What Is The Best Way To Propose a Guy?
Analyze His Interests
It is important to know a person before you ask them to date or marry you. So your first step should be to find out more about his likes and dislikes. This will also make the process of planning a proposal easier. For example, if he likes trekking or camping, an outdoor proposal would be his dream come true. On the other hand, if he is a movie buff then you can plan a day around that activity. Either way, the proposal should be his special occasion, so don’t hold back in making it all about him. Pamper your man with his favourite chocolates, flowers and whatnot.
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Ease Him Into The Idea
Before you pop the big question, you should start dropping hints. Because as amazing as the idea of a surprise sounds, you wouldn’t want to shock him. So start telling him that you are ready to get serious and see a future together, especially if you’re planning a marriage proposal. Think of it like indirectly proposing to him, putting the idea out there before making the big move.
Here Is How You Can Propose To A Guy Indirectly
1) Tell his best friend about your decision, chances are that they discuss everything and this will definitely come up in their next conversation. This way, he will be anticipating the big proposal.
2) Make an effort to get to know his family, especially his siblings. If your next step is marriage, this will be a huge hint for him. Also, it never hurts to bond with your significant other’s family, so it is a win-win situation.
3) Ask him if he sees a future with you, and share hints about how you see something long-term between the both of you.
Pick The Right Time And Day
If you both share special dates then it is a great idea to propose on that day. For example, you can propose to a guy on his birthday, your birthday or your relationship anniversary (when you’re planning to propose for marriage). Also, you should keep in mind that both of you are financially and emotionally ready for this step. Before you pop the question, have a conversation with your partner about their 5-year plan and if they see marriage or a serious relationship on the cards. This will help you gauge the situation better and time your proposal accordingly.
How Do I Propose Him To Be My Boyfriend?
If You’re Proposing To Him For A Relationship
You may be casually seeing someone for a while and want to make it official by asking him out. It can be tricky, but if you know each other well, you can anticipate what he would like. You can recreate your first date, go on a weekend road trip or even just a candlelight dinner. The answer is to plan something special that the both of you will enjoy and remember for the rest of your lives. So here are a few ways you can ask out a guy, depending on his personality, likes and dislikes.
1) Romantic Dinner Date
If your boyfriend is a romantic then you can plan a candlelight dinner to surprise him. Make bookings at his favourite restaurant, order a bottle of champagne and ask him to be your boyfriend. You can also add a violinist to the mix if you’re a fan of the Karan Johar fantasies.
2) Plan An Adventure
Want to ask out a guy who loves spending time outdoors? You can arrange for an exciting road trip, and include his favourite activities, like camping and trekking. Propose to the guy when you both are alone, so even if you take the trip with friends, you can share this special moment with each other.
3) Surprise Movie Night
If you are going to ask out a guy who is a big movie buff, then why not do it at his favourite place! Pick a movie from the latest Bollywood movies playing in the theaters and wait till the interval to let him know how you feel. However, if he is someone who doesn’t like PDA (public display of affection), then you can substitute the theatre with a movie date indoors.
4) A Fun Day Out
If you want to make him feel special, then you can plan a fun day for him. Include activities like laser tag, paintball, mystery rooms, trampoline parks or maybe just go to an adventure park. The point is to bring back his childlike smile. After which you can pop the question and tell him that you would like to have fun and laugh with him every day.
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5) An Intimate Message
If you, like me, have a way with words then you can leave secret notes for him. From a little one near his phone to one in his bag and wallet, he can find these cute notes throughout the day. End the day by meeting him with the final piece of the puzzle, a note asking him out!
6) Make It About Him
It could be something as simple as hiring his favourite luxury car for a day so he can drive it around the city. Or you get tickets to a concert where his favourite band is performing! The possibilities are endless, the trick is to see an opportunity (the right moment) and grab it.
If You’re Proposing To Him For Marriage
Ready to take the big leap? Then why wait for him to pop the question, you can always ask your boyfriend the question instead. “Will you marry me?” as simple as that question sounds, there is a certain amount of work and planning that goes into planning the proposal. From the ring to the set-up and the right words, everything needs to match his personality. So in order to help you out, here are a few ways in which you can propose to your boyfriend.
1) Plan A Grand Proposal
If you are an over the top girlfriend and think your boyfriend would love a grand proposal then you should definitely pick this one. Think 5000 roses, a ring, a live band, a fancy dinner setting by a nearby lake. Take a page out of your favourite Nicholas Sparks novel and go all out, do not forget to book a professional photographer. You can even prepare a speech telling him how much you love him, he’s sure to appreciate the gesture.
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2) Keep It Small
If your boyfriend is someone who likes to keep things private and intimate between the two of you then you can plan something small for just the two of you. It could be a movie night, complete with his favourite snacks, candy and popcorn. Hide the ring in the popcorn so he can stumble across it and pop the question!
3) Pop The Ring
The old school way always works! It’s a classic for a reason. Take him out on a date, go down on one knee with the ring in hand and tell him how much you love him. This role reversal might surprise him but the effort you put into the proposal will definitely make a difference. Just be honest and put your heart into it.
4) With Loved Ones
This proposal works better for someone who has been a long term relationship. Because in that case, you’re already on good terms with his friends and family. That makes it easier for you to organize a get together where you can share this special moment with the people you love the most. You can plan a family get together and propose right after dessert, decorate the blueberry cheesecake with the ring and he’ll surely say yes.
5) Relive A Memorable Moment
It could be anything small, like the place where you had your first kiss, your first date or even the first time you said ‘I love you’ to each other. Pick the most important memory of your relationship and turn that into a proposal idea. You could visit the same restaurant as you had gone to on your first date, or propose on the day you first confessed your feelings to each other. Or recreate your first holiday together. When you’re dating someone, there are a lot of ‘firsts’ that come along with it, pick one of significance and surprise him with it.
What If He Says No?
My mom always told me, nothing in this world worth having, comes easy. So if the person you decide to ask out is not the one, then there is probably someone else out there for you. As a die-hard romantic, I believe in the concept of soulmates and such, so if the guy I propose to says no, I’ll just assume he isn’t the one. However, reject is a part of life and you are putting yourself out there then you should be ready for the situation to end either way. In most cases, if your boyfriend isn’t ready to get married it doesn’t necessarily need to end in a break-up, you can still talk it out and give each other more time.
Should I Book A Professional Photographer?
This depends on how casual or formal are you planning the proposal to be. If it just the two of you, then you should book a professional because you’ll probably be in the moment. However, if you are with family and friends, you can ask a friend with good Instagram skills to click the pictures when you propose.
But if you aren’t sure of the situation, a professional photographer is always a good idea. This way you wouldn’t have to rely on other people to share the pictures with you.
Should I Inform His Family Beforehand?
That depends on how well you know the family and how long your relationship has been. If you have met his parents and siblings, then keeping them in the loop will help generate better ideas. This will also make a difference when you get to planning the real deal, the more the merrier! You’ll have better access to his likes and dislikes and the family can actually help you plan a better surprise.
Should I Include His Friends In The Proposal?
If you collectively spend a lot of time together with his friends and consider them apart of your inner circle then you should definitely include them. A small gathering of friends there to support you, cheer you on and share this memorable moment will be a huge deal for him.
Good luck, ladies!
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