Trust is the crux of a relationship. Once it is broken, it’s lost forever. Sometimes, the closest person is the one to let you down when you least expect it. You’ve given so much, yet, you’ve received so little in return. You often question yourself whether you’re not good enough; but it’s not always you who is at fault. Be kind to yourself. Sometimes, it’s the other person...
Love is a complex word. It has many meanings attached to it. It means different things to different people. The one who cheats is no exception here. No matter how much you loved them, they’ve failed to return the favour of loyalty. No matter how much you do for them, it’s never enough to win their love. They hurt you, and expect you to get over it like it never happened in the first place. That’s because their notion of love is simply different from yours. Not only do you end up trying to adapt your beliefs to theirs, but there is also that deep, underlying fear: if they cheated on you once, what's to stop them from doing it again?
This is a person you were most vulnerable to - and that’s something they took advantage of. That’s unacceptable to me. Cheaters don’t value a person’s emotions. Not just that, it’s disrespectful to your relationship too. Which is why it’s not something to “forgive and forget” about.
No matter what they say or do, the one who betrayed your trust doesn’t deserve the time and attention that you have devoted to them. Getting over them is tougher than most things in life, but you must do it. It takes courage and self belief. Love someone who doesn’t feel the need to seek love or attention somewhere else. Love someone who is willing to be yours, and yours only.
Life is too short to wait for someone who does not deserve you. Wait for the right one to come along. The gift of patience is what you need. Nothing comes easy in life, and definitely not finding your soulmate. No matter where he is, if he is destined to cross paths with you, he surely will. Don’t settle for less when life has better things in store for you. Good luck!
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