It's not a split second decision; we don't just see a woman we like and automatically start towards her. Whether it's at a party, a bar or even at the mall, there are some things we ask ourselves before approaching a girl we might be interested in. Here are some of those questions!
We're not saying that we're waiting for you to make the first move. But we might sometimes wait for a sign that says you're interested. It could be something as small as eye contact or as simple as a smile in our direction but that's really all we need to give us a push. Though keep in mind that a lot of us are TERRIBLE at picking up signals, so sometimes what you see as a subtle hint will pass us by completely. If you are interested, please just keep on hinting! :-P
Question 1: Is SHE interested?
We know it's completely illogical to ask ourselves this but it's only human nature to be a bit nervous and second guess yourself occasionally. We try our best not to let this show or hold us back when we finally manage to strike up a conversation with you though.
Question 2: What if she says no?
There could be a million things you're doing that we just wouldn't interrupt. You could be just be on your phone killing time but we might think you're having a serious conversation and decide not to approach you. You can write this off to us not wanting to be too imposing. And if you're at all open to a tall, dark handsome stranger approaching you, it helps if you look a little less pre-occupied.
Question 3: Does she look busy?
It's not always easy to tell but sometimes it's really obvious. If you're wearing an engagement ring, we definitely wouldn't bother wasting our time. Other times, it can be tricky though so we tend to stay away if we think you might have something going one with a one of the guys you're hanging out with.
Question 4: Does she seem committed?
Question 5: Is she at work?
We're (more or less) very simple creatures. There is no way we want to ruin our own chances with you and in case ARE at work or with colleagues, the way we approach you will be quite different from a situation where you were with friends.
Life becomes so much easier if we find out that you're a friend of a friend. At least we don't have to worry about how to get introduced to you without seeming like a creep. So asking our friends if you look familiar to any of them, has us mostly wishing for a positive answer.
Question 6: Do any of my friends know her?
Question 7: Do I look fine?
While we like to seem nonchalant about this, we do spare a thought to what kind of a first impression we might end up making on you. A quick check if we smell and look okay ends up working in our own favor.
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