Been with your boy for what seems like a really, REALLY long time? Congratulations! Looks like you hit the jackpot! Not everybody is so lucky in love – you know that right? So cherish it, celebrate it and hold on to it. We know that is a tad bit easier said than done because things may get predictable or boring. But don’t worry, because that’s where we can help!
1. Designated Date Nights
When you’ve been with your significant other for a long time, the lines between dates and just general chilling get totally blurred! One of the most important things to remember is that you have to hold on to the romance. This means you need to plan dinner dates like you guys used to right in the beginning. No friends allowed. Ask him to pick you up instead of having him show up whenever he’s free. Make time for these dates. Also, make an effort to dress up - you’ll soon be feeling as excited as you did all those years ago!
2. Talk On The Phone Late At Night
We all do that at the beginning of a relationship, don’t we? Long phone conversations that stretch into the night now seem unnecessary or exhausting. But once upon a time, they were solely responsible for that smile on your face and those butterflies in your stomach. Next time, instead of texting him “I’ll tell you later”, just pick up the phone and call him. It’ll feel just like old times. Besides, the connection you feel with someone in the dead of the night while everyone else is asleep is just so much deeper!
3. The Kiss Case
We get it – you’ve been together a long, long time. This probably means you’ve done wayyy more than just kissing! And needless to say, there’s nothing wrong with that. But remember the first few dates or the first time you guys kissed? It was so darn special, right? So bring it back, already! You don’t always have to go beyond that. Spend some time just kissing and cuddling like you guys used to back in the day. It’ll bring that rush back that you used to feel all the time!
4. Double Date Nights
Yes, it’s true. Hanging out with another couple is not only a great way to unwind and have fun, it brings you closer to your partner and reminds you why you chose each other...even after all these years.
5. The Gift Equation
The reason why we start feeling jaded in relationships is that we stop making any effort. Naturally, as time passes, the surprise element dwindles. That’s why we should never stop doing the small little things we used to do. Be it cards, gifts, flowers, letters – we need to keep up the tradition. It’s not about the money; the gift can be small or even handmade. It’s the effort and thought that really count. Oh and don’t try to get away by gifting a hug - that doesn’t count, okay?!
6. Talk About The Future!
Remember the beginning of the relationship? Everything was new and exciting and part of the charm was that you guys didn’t know what was ahead. Now, the equation has changed. You both have been together for a long time and are comfortable in your space. While this may be true...the future is still unknown. Talk about it. Discuss what you see yourself doing in the future. Maybe it’s marriage, maybe it’s babies and maybe it’s travelling the world – but suddenly you feel the nerves, the rush, the love and the magic you felt right at the start. It’s an exhilarating feeling to make life plans with someone you love so much! Try it, already.
7. Say Hello To New Experiences!
What exactly is new love? That feeling when not everything is known and predictable, right? Well, why not add that back into the mix. You and your boy need to indulge in some new experiences together. Play a new sport together, or take a language class. Travel as much as possible! These things will not only make you grow as an individual, but will also make things super fun for the two of you as a couple. Besides, the newness of all these experiences will give you two that much-needed break from routine life.
8. Nostalgia Nights
Pour your favourite wine, and sit together and reminisce. Discuss the first date. See how much you can remember! See photos and videos. Dig up old online conversations and emails. See if you can even remember the context for half of them. You can even discuss your first few fights – we bet they won’t seem even half as serious now! But looking back is a great way to feel all warm and fuzzy inside. If you’ve made so many great memories together, we bet it’ll make you want to make many more!
9. Embrace It
Yours is a love that goes beyond that initial rush of emotions. It’s time tested and everlasting. Cherish it and accept it. It’s growing without you even realizing it. You are blessed, so take a minute to thank the universe for the love that you have. :)
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Published on Nov 30, 2015