There could be a million reasons why you were single for a long time - anything from not finding the right guy to having had a really bad experience with the wrong one. Or just not wanting to be in a relationship. But what happens when you finally decide to leave the single life behind and give dating someone another shot? Well, here's the answer from someone who has been in that exact place!
1. It's not easy!
They'll tell you that relationships shouldn't be so much effort, but it isn't true. You'll have to constantly make adjustments to the way you function because you were so used to being by yourself and you aren't anymore. Which isn't child's play. But you just need to make some changes in your priorities and you'll be fine!
2. Trust doesn't come in a day
You know the guy, sure, and he seems like a great person! He says all the right things and your friends love him too. But that doesn't mean you'll take it at face value. You want things to go slow and take time... Because him living up to what he says is the only thing that'll make you trust him!
3. Tons of confusion every moment
You don't remember how couples do things! It's okay, it's not your fault. You'll take a while to get the hang of things, since it's different for every relationship and every couple, but you'll eventually push through the confusion and get to the point when you get things right!
4. Really long phone/ text conversations!
This doesn't have to be true for everyone, but most of the time, having a boyfriend increases the amount of time your phone by a huge margin! And if you've been single for a while that's something that takes a LOT of getting used to. After 5 minutes, you JUST draw a blank. Doesn't mean you don't like him, just that you're slightly tongue-tied at first. Don't worry, the awkwardness goes away soon!
5. There is a sudden expansion of your social circle
Suddenly your life is bombarded with new people. You're meeting all of his friends that you hadn't yet, and sometimes you feel a bit at sea. While it might be a bit overwhelming for you, keep in mind that he's meeting all of your friends and trying to impress them too. So take a deep breath and soldier on!
6. Let the past stay there...
Like there was a reason you were single, there is a reason you're not anymore! You made a decision to be with someone again and that means you have to let your past baggage go. It might be frightening at first, but it's also incredibly liberating!
7. Your history with others? Tell him about it.
Just because you were single all this time doesn't mean that you were never interested in or somewhat involved with other people at all. If you think your relationship is going somewhere serious, it's probably best to get that conversation out of the way. He might eventually meet some guys from your past, so it's best that he knows all there is to them. Every single detail does not have to be discussed, but a general idea might help.
8. Getting intimate
Hooking up with some guy is one thing, and getting physical with your boyfriend is a whole other ball game. You might be a nervous wreck, feel like you're doing it for the first time all over again but it'll be wonderful. So take your time, be ready for it. And it'll be perfect. :-)
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Published on Sep 23, 2015