Dating, in itself, comes with its own set of struggles. But top it with a set of strict parents, and you reach the next difficulty level. Strict parents are made up of 60% rules and 40% protective instincts - and that's a deadly combination to rebel and cast your will against! If you are a girl reared by a stern duo, here are a few dating struggles we know you'll relate with!
1. No flirty texting. ’Coz your phone records are family property!
Every romance starts with cute texts and long calls over the phone, but not yours! With your parents constantly hovering, asking who you’re talking to… You have to pretend a LOT that you’re talking to your friend “Tina”.
2. Dressing up for a date? No problem. ‘Coz you CAN’T!
“Why are you wearing that?” “Where is your dupatta?” “Why are you wearing so much makeup?” “That dress is WAY too short!” With these questions being fired at you daily, you have to pretty much forget about dressing to impress your date! Or ever looking glam when you happen to bump into your crush!
3. Late nights? Sleepovers? They are not real things in your world
You know couples who get away for a weekend? You can’t even manage to get away for a romantic dinner (without basically pretending that 20 other people are accompanying you). You’re mostly stuck doing lunch or an early evening coffee. :-(
4. Neither is having your boyfriend over...
Unless, of course, you are ready to take him through the grinding session of too many questions, being cornered, and so on and so forth. Rather than successfully freak him the hell away from him, you just don’t even bother calling him over.
5. And if he asks you to go out to a club with him…
Nope, that’s NEVER happening. People drink alcohol at clubs, and alcohol equals irresponsible behaviour. So even with your imaginary-20-friends accompanying you, no WAY are your parents letting you go.
6. Plus there are those very strong opinions about “men”
Now, you’ve grown up in an environment that's super-protective. Which means, anti-strange-men. The world is a scary place, and so MANY things threaten us, but please, parents, can’t you believe that my boy isn’t like that?
7. It’s SO hard to get past all the sex gyan!
Is there anything more terrible than your mom explaining exactly how you could so easily get pregnant or catch a disease, over and over again? She’s convinced those sex ed talks at school didn’t suffice! And sometimes, you have a hard time not ignoring her warnings in your head when things are getting, uh, exciting with your guy!
8. When you DO go out, you have to carry with you a very strict set of instructions!
You are bound by SUCH strict orders to get in by X time, not go to Y part of town... many of your dates turn out to be super-stressful events that need to be done and dusted with. (Where did all the fun go?!)
9. Also, that phone will keep ringing
You just don't get to have those carefree, magic moments of uninterrupted conversations too often, what with those worried calls buzzing you every hour… Yes, parents, I know you’re just worried about me, but stop reminding me of that deadline - I haven’t even missed it yet!!
10. Did we mention how your allowance is limited AND monitored?
Even though you might be dating a chivalrous man, willing to pay for your dates - you would want to treat him occasionally too, wouldn’t you? Or maybe buy him gifts? Or even buy yourself a pretty pair of shoes or a parlour session to celebrate your anniversary! SO not happening with each one of your bills being discussed in detail!
11. Your friends NEVER try to set you up if you’re single
Your parents aren't just strict for you, but your friends too. Your friends won't try to fix you up, lest your parents try to fix them instead! There go those blind dates. :-(
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