Breakups are never easy. Getting out of a long-term relationship is even harder. When you are with someone for long, various aspects of your life inadvertently get shaped around your relationship with them. So, once you’ve decided to call it quits, whether you are ready for it or not, you have entered a new phase of life, and it’s time to embrace it!
While picking yourself up and getting on with life as usual after a breakup is not an easy thing, it is a necessary one. Here are a few things to keep in mind when you’re trying to pick yourself up after the end of a long-term relationship!
1. While you’re allowed to mourn the loss, do it within reason!
Yes, it can be hard to let go of your feelings and everything else attached to the relationship immediately. However, don’t let yourself get carried away in self-pity. You are bound to miss them for a while, but letting that feeling take over your life is just not the way to go!
2. Enjoy the little things you’re doing on your own
Whether it's your job, that trip you’ve finally decided to take on your own or just random everyday things you didn’t have the time to do earlier. Revel in the things you can and will accomplish regardless. Life goes on!
3. Don’t waste time despising them or the relationship you had
Holding any sort of resentment in your heart will get you nowhere. When you waste so much energy reliving the experience over and over, how would it ever be possible for you to move on? There is so much more to look forward to! :)
4. Get involved in an activity you’ve always wanted to try out!
Go enroll for that dance class you’ve always wanted to. Start playing that sport you’ve been telling your friend about for ages now! Or just grab that book you’ve been dying to read! Go out there and get busy! So much to do, so little time. ;)
5. Spend time with your friends and loved ones
While being in a relationship doesn’t mean you stop seeing your friends altogether, your time, of course, is divided between your work, family, partner and friends. And because our friends love us so much, didn’t they just love complaining about how they didn’t get to see us enough (:P)? Spend time with them. This is bound to cheer you up and make them happy too!
6. Take time to reconnect with the person you are outside of the relationship
We’re not saying you have a dual personality, but all of us do tend to be a slightly different version of ourselves when we are with someone. Their needs and wants become as important to us as ours, and we all learn to work around that. In the process that becomes a part of who we are. Take this time to truly understand who you are as a person. Cater to your needs and wants and don’t be afraid to put yourself first!
7. Let ‘forgive and forget’ be your mantra
Don’t dwell too long on everything that was wrong. The more you do it, the more you find to beat yourself up about. We know it's easier said than done, but whether it is about forgiving them, forgiving yourself, or just the both of you, the sooner you are able to do it, the happier you will be.
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