Flirting, they say, is an art. A tricky one at that! When it comes to flirting, there is a thin line between knowing what is, and is NOT, okay! Some of us are of course flawless flirts. Others, not so much. Whichever category you fall in, there is a chance that there are still some mistakes you’re making unintentionally while flirting!
Here are some of the most common flirting mistakes that women make, and absolutely must avoid!!
1. Looking way more interested than you could possibly be in what he’s saying
Ladies, of course you want him to think you’re listening, and that you’re interested, but nodding your head to the point of feeling dizzy is really not required!
2. Playing the on-and-off game
Sure, guys sometimes enjoy the chase and don’t mind indulging that attitude of yours a little bit. But the hot-and-cold game isn’t something that goes down very well with the guys. You don’t want to confuse him so much about what you want that he isn’t sure anymore about what HE wants!
3. Talking incessantly about other people who are into you
Don’t. Just don’t. You’re trying to flirt with him, not prepping him for the competition he will have to face if he wants to be with you!
4. Acting more eager than required
It is understandable that you would want to spend time with or talk to your crush/prospective love interest often, but don’t continuously make an effort to be where he is or bombard him with calls. Also, it is way too soon to be asking him how many kids he wants, if at all!!
5. Giggling like it is your job!
Yes, we know men love it when you laugh at their jokes and all, but the thing is, if his jokes aren't funny, you're encouraging him to carry on making bad jokes! Also, you don’t want to look like you were victim to a nitrous gas explosion!
6. Acting like you’re dumb when you’re NOT
There is a thriving misconception that men don’t like intelligent women. We don’t know who said that, or why! There is never an excuse to dumb yourself down. And majority of the men all over the world would agree!
7. Talking about yourself like there is no tomorrow
Don’t overwhelm him with all that information all at once! It could be the nerves or just the general excitement of the date that has you chatting so much about yourself. However, you don’t want to give him the impression that you’re self-absorbed, or only capable of thinking about yourself!
8. Saying NOTHING
Yes, you want to show him you’re an attentive listener, sure. But that doesn’t mean you don’t try to steer the conversation at all! Give him something to work with, girl! Else, he’s just going to end up thinking that you’re not interested at all.
9. Bringing up stuff that is WAY too personal
There’s such a thing as sharing when you want to get to know someone, and there is such a thing as oversharing. Talking about your job is fine, but your salary? Hang on, ladies, no need to go there just as yet. And don’t even think about asking him about his
stuff. If all goes well, you’ll (eventually) get to know everything you want to!
10. Bitching about an ex!
Is there really a need to bring up an ex? You’re flirting with him! He doesn’t really want to hear you whine about your ex. It is NOT fun. No need to bring your claws out (just yet :-P).
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