We do hate being the bearer of bad news. But sometimes we all get sucked into a relationship which is not healthy. It often takes an outside perspective to push you to that heart-breaking decision - it’s time to break up. Here is a list of questions to ask yourself if you are thinking about breaking up.
(Disclaimer: Every relationship is complicated and unique. We suggest you take this post with a grain of salt!)
1. On An Average, Are You Mostly Sad or Happy?
Our mood is a good barometer of how the relationship is doing. If you are constantly anxious/ sad/ depressed, then it’s time to sit back and evaluate.
2. Can You Speak To Him About It?
In a healthy relationship, you should be able to discuss how you feel without getting his back up.
3. Do You Feel In Sync With Him?
Do you always know where he is, what he’s doing, and vice versa? This should not be an effort, simply the mechanics working well. If things are going badly at work, you both should know. If things are going well, you should consider it a victory. But if you are constantly questioning each other and feeling annoyed about this, it’s not going too well.
4. When Was The Last Time You Laughed Out Loud Together?
It should not have been too long ago. If you are in, or thinking of, a long-term relationship, it should be with a person who makes you laugh.
5. Does He Really Care About You?
Does he notice the small things? Like how you take your tea/ coffee? Can he order yours without you telling him? Does he know your most favourite dessert? If you have been together for a while, he should know the details. If it’s a new relationship, then he should want
to know all this. If he knows your shoe and dress size, we are (almost) sure he’s a keeper! And this holds both ways. You must also care about the little things that matter to him.
6. Are You Attracted To Each Other?
Here is where you have to be totally honest with yourself. Are you attracted to him? Is he attracted to you? If you harbour the slightest doubt, talk to him. And if you still can’t be sure, think of the future, when this will become an even bigger problem.
7. Why Are You In This Relationship?
This is one question worth asking. Has it become a habit? Are you scared of being alone? Does being together make you both happy? In today’s day and age, two people should be together for the right reasons - social pressure is not one of them.
8. Are You Both Fond of Each Other’s Friends and Family?
In the long run, you both have to exist in each other’s universe. Getting along with friends and family is a good thing. If you can’t stand his mum- or she can’t stand you might become a problem later.
9. How Are You Both in Public?
Are you one of those sweet couples who are constantly holding hands? That’s a good thing. Observe how much casual contact you both make when out in a group. In a healthy relationship, it’s almost automatic. If you both are sitting at opposite ends and not even making eye contact, then you guys have a problem.
10. Is He The One?
Hand on heart. Split-second answer. What do you say? This might not be the way to begin or end a relationship, but your gut reaction is telling. Even the best relationships need work. On both sides. If you think he’s the one, fight for the relationship. If you don’t think he’s the one - then ask yourself why.
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