Our society does not do very well with accepting homosexuality, and the least we can do for our homosexual friends is to be supportive and a pillar of never-ending strength. Here’s what you can do to support a gay friend.
Know that the conversation is not about you, and that it’s important to remain focused on them and their struggles. It doesn't matter how you are feeling at this point - your job is to provide all the help and support they need.
You might not have easy solutions to all the problems they face at home with their parents and siblings. Nor would you be able to understand completely just how difficult it is to constantly hide who you really are. But you can be a good listener and help them get things off of their chest.
There are a number of things you can do if things get really tense at your friend’s home and s/he needs to move out. If they need to crash at your place for a day or two, if they need to talk - anything and everything they need, be there to help out.
It’s always good to have your friend’s back.
Your friend probably told you about his/her sexual orientation in confidence, and it would be completely uncool if you went and told others. Breaking someone’s trust is never a good idea.
Honestly, this is basic human decency. Every one of us is equal, no matter what our sexual orientation might be. No one should have to face abuse because of it.
Homosexuality is often conflated with promiscuity. This is obviously not the case, and sexuality is not simply about sex. It is also about love and intimacy and how we perceive the world.
Just because your friend is gay doesn’t mean s/he will automatically want to accompany you on shopping trips to the mall. Respect your friend’s individuality.
You need to be their backbone, and support them in each and every personal, social and political struggle to fight for their rights.
Help him/ her make friends with those who have been going through the same challenges and can offer support and inspiration in a way that you can't.
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