The company you keep directly influences you. If you’re mixing with toxic people, chances are your attitude will get polluted as well. People who bring you down should occupy no place in your life. Trust us, you will be better off without them. All you have to do is make the effort to change. You are responsible for your own happiness, and you have every right to take necessary measures to ensure it.
There are some people out there who go out of their way to figure out who is bitching about them. Sure, everyone wants to be up-to-date about all the gossip about them - but does knowing this add any value to your life? Analyse your own behaviour and make sure you’re not hurting anyone with it. And once you’ve done that, just ignore the negative things you hear about yourself. Letting yourself being torn down by what other people think is totally unproductive.
No one is perfect. Some of us may suffer from serious body image issues, poor communication skills, or whatever you feel are your personal shortcomings. But you have to understand that you need to get OVER it. Before you start loving someone else, start with yourself. Do things for yourself - dance when no one is home, make peace with an old friend, listen to good music... Start by achieving these small things, and you’ll suddenly start feeling lighter about yourself.
Yes, ladies, what has happened in the past should stay in the past. The "present" is the only thing that matters. Focus on what you can do now, and don’t postpone it for the future. Your circumstances will be based on your current actions. Reason with your thoughts and actions, plan ahead, and success will surely follow.
Nothing in this world lasts forever. Your pain and problems are all momentary. We know that by telling you to stay and remain optimistic is an easy thing to say, but trust us, it’s the best way to deal with it. Think about what you can do to make the situation better. Life always offers you a choice. It’s your job to make the right one. Go get’em, tiger!
There are tons of people in the world who are probably in a more troublesome situation than you are. For that, you need to thank the universe. Get a journal, pen down the things that made you happy and reflect on them when you’re not feeling too good. Write down positive quotes, funny scenarios, doodle happy pictures, and of course, inspirational letters you’ve received from people who adore you. Life is so beautiful, don’t waste your energy just because you are blue.