The problem with sex is that as amazing as it can be (and hopefully always is for all of you), it can also land you in some super-embarrassing situations. Here are five awkward sex situations that most of us face at some point or the other – don’t worry, it’s not the end of the world!
1. When you/him just can’t get into it
Many things affect your libido. Your menstrual cycle, stress, ill health, exhaustion – it could be anything, really. It could even be more specific such as that 30-second break you guys took so he could don protection. And then you suddenly realize one of you isn’t turned on any longer. Don’t stress. That’s just your body telling you that you need a break. Show each other some TLC. Snuggle, cuddle, watch a movie together. Give your mind and body a break – whether it’s a couple of hours or a couple of days. That chemistry is going to sizzle right back as soon as your system’s back on track.
2. Discovering your partner has a “kink”
It might be that he wants to try out role-playing, or that he has a thing for your feet, or something too outrageous to write about here! Don’t freak out. Talk to him, try and understand what it is about the situation or “thing” that turns him on. Give it a shot if you’re comfortable with trying it out, else tell him it doesn’t work for you. It’s also a great opportunity for you to figure out whether you have a kink too, and propose experimenting with it to him!
3. When one of you has a problem about sex during menstruation
Hey, it’s a messy business. So it’s perfectly normal for one or both of you to feel at least a little icked out, especially in the early stages of your relationship. The thing to remember here is that it’s not compulsory for either of you to want to do it just because the other person is feeling horny. Indulge in some foreplay to get you through those days. Engage in naughty talk. This is your chance to “wait for it” and build up to an explosive session when both of you are ready!
4. Hooking up with someone really inappropriate
Could be your ex. Could be a colleague. The point is, it’s someone you’re going to feel at least a little uncomfortable coming face-to-face with later. We’d tell you to think about it carefully before you get into bed with him, but if you’re past that point, and you’re feeling awkward and embarrassed, make sure there is a clear-the-air conversation afterwards. Just say: “That was great, but don’t think it’s a good idea to repeat it”. Of course, if you enjoyed it enough to want to repeat the experience, don’t let us stop you! Just... think it through, and make a balanced decision about how this might affect you personally or professionally.
5. Having a friend or relative walk in on you
Oh dear. That IS awkward, isn’t it? But what you need to remember is that there’s nothing wrong with what you’re doing. There’s no getting around the pangs of embarrassment that you, your partner and your unexpected guest are going to suffer. What you need to do is diffuse the situation: a heartfelt “I wish you hadn’t seen that!” works. Eventually, you’ll all get over it. Of course, if it’s your mum or dad who’s caught you in the act, you might do well to be on very, very good behaviour for at least a few weeks!