When it comes to detecting ‘red flags’, most of us already have a long list. And even when we might try to ignore the signs, our BFFs are there to hold the mirror. However, there is still one place where it is hard to catch the red flags—in our bed. NGL, the romance and excitement of the “honeymoon phase” can be blinding, but there are a few red flags in the bed that we can’t ignore. After all, sex is the perfect opportunity to explore and enjoy mutual pleasure. Why settle for less? Read on for five red flags that are absolute deal breakers.
No Concerns About Your Orgasm
Imagine you are running a marathon without a finish line. Sure, you might enjoy the jog, but won’t it feel better to run past the red ribbon? Sis, if your partner does not seem to care about your orgasm, it may be time to cut the chord and run. Sex can’t be just about them. You have the right to pleasure too!
Skipping The Foreplay? Boy Bye
We totally understand the rip-off-my-jeans-and-take-me-now energy, but it can’t be an everyday thing. The truth is that foreplay helps to build a stronger, more intimate connection with your partner. This leads to better sex. While everyone has different preferences in foreplay, skipping it altogether is a major red flag. Allow us to present an analogy here—you stretch before you work out, right?
Kink Shaming Is A Big No-No
Kink-shaming is exactly what it sounds like—shaming someone for their sexual desires. In any sexual relationship, you’re bound to be turned on by different things, right? To many, the act of your partner choking or spanking in the bedroom is a definite no. To others, these may be the highlight of their week. Just because you are into something and your partner isn’t doesn’t mean they can kink shame you.
Not Going Down On You
NGL, oral sex makes the world go ’round. And if you aren’t getting it from your bae, it is a red flag. However, in this situation, you can talk about it. If your partner isn’t cool with it while you want it, they might not be the best fit for you.
Low-Key Putting Pressure On You
If you say you’re not up for sex or any particular act but your partner continues to push for it, it’s a MASSIVE red flag. You need to set healthy boundaries with your partner. The moment they disrespect you, run for the hills. Remember what Amitabh Bachchan said in Pink— no means no!
Now we know every relationship is different, but there are a few things that shouldn’t be tolerated. If you catch one, girl run!
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