Kinky sex. Most people speak the phrase with a frown on their faces as if it’s something dirty. And after all, “good” girls aren’t into all that right? WRONG! Us girls often want to experiment in bed with new things just as much as the next guy, but we just don’t talk about it openly. So here are some amazing tips for all of you girls who want to be bad in bed…if you know what we mean! 😉
1. Pick Your Poison
Wanting to try something and knowing what that something is – these are two completely different things. Talking is definitely your first step. Don’t jump into it expecting your partner to share your exact kinks. Make a list. Get veto-ing. And what’s left is what you are free to try!
2. Mr Spanks-A-Lot
Yes, spanking might sound like punishment, but when done right, it can be so, SO much more. Most men have dreamt of hitting that ass, in more ways than the obvious. And it really doesn’t have to leave your ass red like in porn! Start out slow, let him build up when you feel comfortable and it’ll kind of take off from there. Have a stop word anyway, though, because he might get confused where your line between pain and pleasure is. And it’s a fine line, ladies! You don’t want to be pushed when you’re not ready!
3. All Day Role Play
Role play can be tame and sweet when you and your partner pretend to be strangers who met at the bar. Or it can be crazy and kinky when you pretend to be characters from your favorite movie or a master-slave dream you’ve always had – ALL day long. From the moment you wake up, you get into character and you follow through until you’re satisfied with your performance – and that of your partner’s!
4. Bring On Bondage
No, we don’t mean that you need to head to the store and ask if they sell handcuffs. You can start off simple with scarves (or dupattas, we’re not fussy!). Or if you’re feeling adventurous, a regular old belt does the trick just as well! The knots should be tight enough for you to feel held down but also loose enough for you to wriggle your way out if need be.
5. Equip Yourself
Once you’ve dipped your toes in and liked it, you will want to jump in head-first. But practice some patience! A lot of the pleasure and fun of kinky sex actually lies in how much control you have over yourself in any situation. So don’t take on more than you’re ready for – graduate slowly. Instead of spanking with the hand, start experimenting with objects. Read about the different impact different materials have on skin – this might help in shaping your decision about what to try. And once you’ve tried and tested bondage with scarves and belt, move on to finding out how you feel about handcuffs, rope, etc. There are a million different knot techniques to try, but there is also chafing and proper after-care involved.
6. Make An Exhibit
Now, sex in public places isn’t something we would suggest – what with innocent eyes being everywhere. But exhibitionism isn’t all about that. It can easily be a private place where you feel exposed, the terrace of your house, or even the balcony. Or you can go a different route, and simply sneak your knickers into your man’s jacket pocket when you’re in public. Send him a picture from the lingerie trial room while he’s outside. Remember what we said about baby steps?
7. A Little Bit Of Ass Play
Anal sex is like the blow jobs of 2016. Everyone’s talking about it, everyone wants to try it. Sure, it’s totally okay if you’re not one of them. But if your mind has gone there more times than you would like to admit, then you are curious and that’s okay. How to go about it? For starters, don’t try to have anal sex at the first go. Sometimes, just a finger does the trick. Or your partner’s mouth. It’s the only way you’ll get a taste of what it really feels like and if you want to try the real thing. And if it’s during sex? Well, it could be all the stimulation you need and be assured that it’ll be an experience you won’t forget anytime soon. But you’ll get nowhere without lube. Use tons of it if you even remotely want to like the experience – yes, even for just the finger!
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